Something Changed While I Wasn’t Looking

Something Changed While I Wasn’t Looking

I am divorced and have been so for a while now, about two years, after being with the same person for fifteen years. I hadn’t felt much like dating because I was still in love with my wife, (x-wife). So I get out on the scene only to find “Something changed while I wasn’t looking”. It would seem that being decent, direct, forthright and sincere is something modern women not only disdain but distance themselves from

My first attempt started by dating someone I always thought of as an honest and moral person, but when I got close I found, even though I made my intentions clear, a secretive, a pensive individual and it seemed that my stated intentions meant nothing. On my second try I thought I would use a different approach. After observing and a bit of light flirting the opportunity for an talk, to find out which way the wind blew, presented itself. What a surprise, almost immediately an offer of “friends with benefits” was extended to me. I know it sounds odd but I’m no “player” and said as much, in a nice way. That went less well than the first farce. The third and most recent candidate was another I have known for a while. I was a bit put-off at first contact but discounted it in that availability needed to be established. Upon further observation and interviews, with individuals whom had inside information, reconsideration was made on my part. There had been no talk of dating or contact other than subtle innuendo so I thought nothing of it, wrong again. The cold shoulder was the result of that. No great loss as my instinct and interviews pointed to deception and guile. I’ll have none of that again.

Have things changed this much in the last decade and a half? Am I being too hard or is this the new reality? How can I deal with things if they are so different from what I remember? Why am I so out of touch? Perhaps I have not had enough time, out in the world, to find the person I’m looking for! All this leaves me vexed by what I don’t understand.

I'll keep trying, even if I don't understand. I'm sure I don’t like the “New Dating Scene” I have encountered!

Memorial Day and Veterans Day?

Memorial Day and Veterans Day?

Some confuse the two days. Memorial Day  is set aside to remember and honor those in the military who died in the service of their country. Veterans Day is the day set aside to thank and honor ALL those who served honorably in the military – in wartime or peacetime and those who died are also remembered

Memorial Day Trivia

• It was a post Civil War, Southern tradition first known as Decoration Day.
• It to honor and remember the soldiers who died. In 1882, many people began calling it “Memorial Day”. After World Wars I and II, it became accepted as a day to remember all of our military men and women who died, not just those from the Civil War era. A Federal law was passed in 1987 officially acknowledging the name of the holiday as “Memorial Day”.
• It is customary to fly the flag at half staff until noon.
• In 2000, Congress established a National Moment of Remembrance, which asks Americans to pause for one minute at 3pm in an act of national unity.

Veterans Day Trivia

• Veterans Day is always observed officially on November 11, regardless of the day of the week on which it falls. The Veterans Day National Ceremony, like most ceremonies around the nation, is held on Veterans Day itself. However, when Veterans Day falls on a weekday, many communities choose to hold Veterans Day parades or other celebrations on the weekend before or after November 11 so that more people can participate.
• A number of countries honor their veterans each year on November 11, although the name and types of commemorations differ somewhat from Veterans Day celebrations in the United States. For example, Canada and Australia observe "Remembrance Day" on November 11, and Great Britain observes "Remembrance Day" on the Sunday nearest to November 11. There are similarities and differences between these countries' Remembrance Day and America's Veterans Day. Canada's observance is actually quite similar to the U.S. celebration, in that the day is intended to honor all who served in Canada's Armed Forces. However, unlike in the U.S., many Canadians wear red poppy flowers on November 11 in honor of their war dead. In Australia, Remembrance Day is very much like America's Memorial Day, a day to honor that nation's war dead.

Dysfunctional America

Dysfunctional America

What do all of these places have in common: Washington D.C., The State Capitol, The County Seat and Town Hall, they have all lost there way, they are dysfunctional. The problem is that “We the people” are also all, dysfunctional. Personal responsibility, civility, honor, trustworthiness and truthfulness have been lost in America. It seems to be the exception for someone to take responsibility for there own actions. To curse and act the fool in public let alone in private seems to not offend most of us. The most honorees thing anyone seems to want to do today is pat them selves on the back for a mediocre job. To sneak, steal or cheat has been raised to the level of art form. Many of our highest paid executives inspire the worst in human nature instead of condemning it. Most of us don’t think anything about telling a lie, to a stranger, a boss, client, customer, fellow worker, to a parent, child or spouse. To do something mean to someone at school, work or in the street seems to now be common place. I don't find everyone to be this way but most people seem to have lost there honor in this modern society. What has happened? In a word “Bible”, the Bible and the teachings within have been and are still being systematically removed for our culture, with “Political Correctness” and “Self Realization” running amuck and anti-religion, except for Islam, being the word of the day. It is harder and harder to find those things that are good and right around us. Let’s try something; we will throw out the Bible except for the last six of the ten along with the two. That makes eight simple rules for your personal moniker.

Let’s review,

1. Honor your parents.  (they have experience and should want what is good for you)
2. Don’t murder anyone.  (sounds simple and straight forward)
3. Commit to who you’re committed to.  (What if the shoe were on the other foot?)
4. Don’t steal.  (If it is not yours don’t take it)
5. Don’t tell a lie  (Especially if it will put another in jail or to death)
6. Don’t covet.  (It is one thing to admire something another to want it for your own)

1. Treat everyone like they were your brother.
2. Don’t do anything to anyone you wouldn’t want them to do to you.

What is Mothers Day?

What is Mothers Day?

What is Mothers Day, May 11, 2014? History http://www.history.com/topics/holidays/mothers-day tells it like this; Mother’s Day is a holiday honoring motherhood that is observed in different forms throughout the world. The American incarnation of Mother’s Day was created by Anna Jarvis in 1908 and became an official U.S. holiday in 1914. Jarvis would later denounce the holiday’s commercialization and the latter part of her life trying to remove it from the calendar. While dates and celebrations vary, Mother’s Day most commonly falls on the second Sunday in May...

 

This the day when children, of all ages, try to show the woman who gave them life how much she means to them. That very special day when serving breakfast in bed is almost obligatory in some households, with Hallmark or extra effort homemade card is on the serving tray. I know this is an idealistic view, but when it comes to Mom, money is of no object, chocolate, candy, flowers, dinning at the finest restaurants & presents of all description. My mother has been gone now for a few years and my youngest is no longer in his mother’s home so I can only participate second hand. I sure do miss being able to do something special for my Mom.

Is “Mothers Day” a holiday hijacked by savvy marketers to fill another weekend with over-the-top spending? Yes! I also think it would be altogether impossible for everyone who wants to celebrate the day without this symbiotic relationship. Do I wish it were different? Again yes, but it is what it is because with our bizzy world it's necessary.

When I sat down to write this I had trouble, not because what “Mothers Day” isn't but because it is. It is all those things that it needs to be, a celebration of mothers everywhere and a positive cash flow situation for many businesses and industries. The thing is, nothing is so altruistic that it doesn't have “the ripple” effect in many different ways. We are all reliant on others, not the least of which is our mothers. For truly this is where we all began.

Hope ever one had a GREAT Mothers Day!

Is it Time for the Beach Yet?

Is it Time for the Beach Yet?

 

Summer has officially arrived. As if Y’all didn’t know by now. It going to be “The Long HOT Summer” too. It’s easy to convince people of “Global Warming” oops that’s “Global Climate Change” now isn’t it? (Off on a tangent) because it seems to be wormer now than when I was a kid. It can’t be that I’m less tolerant of the heat, it’s just dam hot!!!

Sitting on the shore drinking a cool beer whilst sitting under an umbrella watching the sun rise over a calm Atlantic, walking a mile to nowhere and back again. Napping on the sand listing to the serf, watching firm bodies in tiny bikini’s play volleyball, now that’s entertainment. All that makes the nearly hour drive to and fro worth every minute spent.

I have been going to the same stretch of beach for almost fifty years. That’s not to say I don’t go/have gone to others but this is the ONE. The bathroom and rinse showers are on the boardwalk at the top of the dune.  Pizza place, Starbucks and ColdStone are right there with a WallGreens & surf shop across the street. Everything one needs close enough, but when you’re on the sand it’s all a million miles away.

Florida is Paradise!

What IS & what’s NOT important?

What IS & what’s NOT important?

Everyone has been talking about the blockhead that owns the L.A. Clippers. Going on and on about an old fool who spoke his mind in private. That is NOT what is important! The media and Washington D.C. have been doing everything in there power to keep our attention focused on this, in all honesty, and other trivial matters. Not to say that bias, prejudice and bigotry are trivial but when held to the “Big Picture” these are but minutia.

If we are talking about the important things Putin, Kerry and Obama would be the names we would be using in our conversations. Putan in/on the Crimea, Kerry on Israel and Jerusalem and Obama in Malaysia and on human rights/free speech.

Putin (Putan) first, as a student of history there are two names that spring to mind in this situation. Neville Chamberlain and Adolf Hitler, for those of you don’t know who these individuals are I personally give them credit for World War II. British Prime Minister, Neville Chamberlain, flew to meet Hitler at his private mountain retreat in Berchtesgaden in an attempt to resolve a crisis. Three documents were signed known as the “Munich Agreement” that garneted the German aggression would stop. Upon returning home to Britain Chamberlain famously declared “We have Peace in our time”. It is widely regarded as a failed act of appeasement toward Germany. In this, our current situation this narcissistic, power crazed liar can never be appeased!

Secretary of State John Kerry reportedly saying behind closed doors that Israel was on the path of becoming an “apartheid” state if it doesn’t agree to a two-state peace deal with the Palestinians. I’m not going to comment about this asinine statement. The person who spoke it, the people who wrote it, and the individual who made the order to carry it out. Are all beneath contempt and should be treated with distain.

President Obama; “What I have shared with the prime minister is the core belief that societies that respect rule of law, that respect freedom of speech, that respect the right of opposition to oppose even when it drives you crazy, even when it's inconvenient, respect for freedom of assembly, the respect for people of different races and different faiths and different political philosophies, that those values are at the core of who the U.S. is but also are a pretty good gauge of whether society is going to be successful in the 21^stcentury or not,". What will be the story when he doesn’t like what you have to say? Remember the IRS investigation of 501c3’s. If you tried to start a non-profit named Freedom Constitution Tea Party. The IRS would have been knocking at your door, talking to friends & family, Ad nauseam.

Can You tell me what is truly important?!?